The Art Of Conversation


Do you know one of those people that everyone loves to see coming and hates to see leaving?

Do you know one of those people that everyone hates to see coming and loves to see leaving?

We probably know both of those kinds of people. 🙂 One of the biggest differences in these two types of people is their conversation.

How we converse is a huge factor in first impressions and frankly, whether people like being around us or not.

A conversation is a dialogue, not a monologue. That’s why there are so few good conversations: due to scarcity, two intelligent talkers seldom meet. – Truman Capote

Is great conversation becoming a lost art? In our current digital age, conversations seem to happen more and more over social media. Conversations are typed words like the ones I am typing now.

But face to face conversations do not have to be a lost art.

Here are 3 ways to be a great conversationalist:

  1. Ask the other person their opinion. Everyone likes to be asked their opinion on a subject. Be sure you have a learner’s attitude while listening. You may not agree with their opinion, but you may learn something you did not know. Ask questions for clarity. This will show the other person that you value what they have to say.
  2. Use positive body language. Much can be expressed without speaking a word. The most important body language is a genuine smile. A smile puts people at ease and makes them feel relaxed. Turn your body to a slight angle when having a conversation. This position is less threatening than a full facing body. Nod occasionally for affirmation  and confirmation.
  3. Talk less than the other person. I know this is hard for some people to do but believe me… NO ONE likes someone who does all the talking…especially when they are talking about themselves!!

One of the things in life I really look forward to, is meeting a friend for morning coffee and having some great conversation.

I like to talk to people. I’ve got one assistant, one Blackberry. That’s my overhead. I don’t text that much or email. I like to sit down face-to-face and have a conversation with you. I’m old-fashioned. – Mark Wahlberg

Be old-fashioned this week and have a face-to-face conversation with someone! 🙂

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